i received an email from a good friend of mine. it attempts to uncomplicate love and all its trappings. im really not an expert in any of these, most especially when its all about the big L word... but being a habitual word vomitter (word vomitter comes after the phrase word vomit which came from one of Lindsay Lohan's dumb movies, which in turn would make you all realize and go aghast asking the very same question: "WTF? YOU WATCH HER MOVIES?!?!?") that i am, i needed to take a shot.

so here goes.

i'm thinking love is subjective. or if we attempt to define it in simpler form, love is different for each and everyone of us. im pretty sure my standards of love is quite different from yours. hence often times, my attempt to explain myself to certain ppol why i am in love with someone, often ends up failing. thats because they measure the love im talking about with their own standards of love. which sucks. because we have different standards.

i will never claim to be an expert on love. thats not who i am. i am not margie holmes or doctor phil who try to overanalyze every bit and piece of a relationship in an attempt to explain why it would or would not fail.

i am human. so i will make mistakes. my partner is human. so i know she will make mistakes. and mistakes are there to make us grow, to make us learn. in the process, we learn to forgive. because if we lose our ability to forgive, then love isn't the big deal the Guy upstairs has been marketing as the panacea to the world's ills. love isn't worth it at all.

we study love too much.

experts will come up with reasons. experts will come up with findings. they will always attempt to give answers to god knows what. thats their job. they need to find ways of making a living. so they  try to learn the quirks about love. because its free. because its common. because its everyday. sure they make good copy. they are interesting reading material. but frankly, that's all there is too it.  a catchy headline on some fashion magazine that encourages anorexia. love is this... love is that...

what about what i think about love? does it still count?

at the end of the day... its only myself and my partner's opinion that counts. and i dont care what the experts say. because when the sun sets, and the day is over, i dont get to spend time with the experts. i get to spend time with the person i love.

i love because i chose to.
i love because i need to.
i love not because of what others are saying...
i love because of what my heart is saying.